The Certainty of Uncertainty

Have you ever made a major life decision you seemed very certain about and then after making that decision uncertainty set in? I would suspect all of us reading this can identify with that reaction. During this period of uncertainty that could last for days, weeks, months or years you begin to question yourself, How could I have made that decision then and feel this way now? During this time of internal inquiry, you question your sanity, emotional state, circumstances, influences and other factors at the time of decision. We often find ourselves reflecting more after the decision than taking adequate consideration projecting before the decision.

When you are certain you know for sure and you are established in heart and mind without a doubt. No matter what happens you remain committed to your decision without compromise. This is your story and you’re sticking with it. When you are uncertain you lack confidence or assurance about a matter. On the other side of the decision there are things that come into play we often don’t anticipate. We’re on the outside looking in but when you’re in it’s another game altogether. Reactive doubt is one thing when you ask yourself, Did I make the right decision? This is quite natural and there should be no room for self-deprecation or personal condemnation. Everyone has doubts! Never forget this! But when there is residential doubt, when it’s consistent and ongoing, there may have been some red flags that you failed to recognize or you ignored your spiritual metal detector that was going off but you drowned out the alarm with rationalization. You could’ve been emotionally vulnerable that someone more strong willed at the time may have leveraged to their advantage. But whatever the case may have been, there are some factors you have to take into consideration on the other side of your decision to determine if you need to make some difficult but necessary changes for your own personal freedom and peace.

These factors include but are not limited to reevaluating the right motive and right end goal, knowing your endurance factor for unpleasant experiences in the process, your values and morality cannot be compromised, a willingness or unwillingness to be stretched, the decision is worthwhile or the decision is not worth possible headaches and heartaches I may have to endure, I will experience joy and fulfillment or I was happier before I made this decision.

It is my hope that when you experience reactive doubt, focus on the big picture and keep moving forward. If you’re experiencing residential doubt do not stay in a place positionally or conditionally to prolong your agony that affects and infects every area of your life. Make the change, your freedom and peace is paramount!!!